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Weddings not my bag either, but yes it may be interesting to see how things are done Sikh-style. Nice people, and made me bacon butties at lunch time. We may not end up going, Anita is less of a people person than me :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Treat it like a short holiday. Not a wedding person either but quite fancy one of those
We had a Buddhist wedding, in Galle, Sri Lanka. Wife wore a pale blue sari , I always wanted a white wedding so I plumped for a white shirt and a white skirt. ;) with gold trim
I haven’t got a scooby what was said during the blessing , there was a registrar piece at the end in english. We had professional makeup and hairdresser for the wife, drummers and dancers , some close family were there with us. Total cost for the wedding including our outfits , cake and a slap up meal for 7... about £600.
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The lengths some blokes'll go to, to wear a dress :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Discopants
Sounds like a nice do, at a bargain price. A week honeymooning in Blackpool would cost more.
I’ve heard that the average wedding in the US cost over $20,000! I don’t know who these people are? I was lucky, my daughter eloped!
Russell
The UK has massively caught up...Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT
mine cost £500 all in including meal and night do... ;) might have been less actually, ive forgotten...certainly wasnt more....Dress and suits excluded
Lol... Wish ours cost that! We had our reception here, arriving in a horse-drawn carriage, from the church: https://gleddoch.com/
Carol Smillie also had her wedding reception there:)
Marco.
are you bragging or complaining Marco???....The niece had her wedding at some refurbished stables and barns in Stanley Co. Durhem...£24.000...the stupid cow....her man has since pissed off and left her...and they are still paying for the wedding......it lasted less than a year....
Lol, neither. Just stating a fact, and wished it had cost me £500, like Grant's!:DQuote:
Originally Posted by mad-moon
Sorry to hear about your niece. That's a nightmare. What a bastard.
Marco.
She's a plonker...Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
neither of us were loaded and it was down to us to pay for it as no-one else was helping out. Dress was a few hundred and only worn once; still got it actually. :D I wore my own suit which was newish. Regestary office was opposite church so could have fooled folk with pics but didnt. No photographer. Got pics from folk attending. Meal was good but only for immediate family and close friends. about 15 I think. this was early sept and it was sunny then it snowed then it was wet the sunny again:doh:.
Do at night in a pub room with disco. about 100 in and a good evening. we bogged off to the best hotel for a night then rented a car and off to Blackie for the weekend... We both enjoyed it and stayed married til she died without many cross words.... no need for silly money being spent
That's just utterly stupid, we do wonder at the ridiculous sums couples spend on getting hitched.Quote:
Originally Posted by mad-moon
Our reception cost £250 at a local pub and a good time was had by all. Plus they had Old Speckled Hen on draught :cool:
yeah way back in 1991..I got married for approx 2200 quid...and that was everything in...there was approx 150 at the wedding...we had a good nosh up...just finger food and everyone got pissed...My brother and his pal did the photographs...five years n 3 kids later, we were divorced....I was in a very dark place for 2 years...
the three course meal was £87.00 per head..then the night time do...she had a whole roast hog...games boothes.. magicians....the place itself was £11000 for the wedding...then the clothes, the cars, her dress, gifts for the bridesmaids, page boys, best man, maid of honour..bottles and bottles of champagne..the photographer was £1200...it was rediculous...i know she's my niece...but she has got her head firmly stuck in her backside....of course...now the husband has buggered off...they've had to sell the £130,000 house they've not long signed up for....which will probably end up in negative equity...bloody fools...Quote:
Originally Posted by Firebottle
Got wed in 1983 (not Anita), and had similar budget to Grant's - s/hand wedding dress, borrowed suit, cake done by a friend of my mum's (£30), registry office, buffet for about 30, hot pot supper at night do. Hire of room was super-cheap, as was disco. The venue had a gym in the basement, and one of the wedding photos was of me bench pressing 260lbs still in my shirt and tie! Sickener for my uncle (the photographer) who thought he was stronger than me. :)
Did get slightly pissed that evening, got dragged onto dance floor by my bride, hadn't finished my cig, so hurriedly put it out and stuck it behind my ear (classy!) Two minutes in, someone ran onto the floor to tell me my hair was on fire. Left early, and we were home in time for Cagney & Lacey. Next day drove to Keswick for 2 nights in a B&B.
My sister's wedding had a horse and cart, a chimney sweep (don't know what that was about), and a stupidly expensive and distant honeymoon. Unfortunately they had to come back a week later and it was all downhill from there.
My theory: today's young folk go from having their arses wiped by their parents, to having a celebrity-budget wedding and honeymoon, then come back to discover that clothes don't wash and iron themselves, and that their new love is actually a bigger slob than they are. Then after a month of bickering about who's responsible for turning their new home into a shithole, they throw in the towel.
There will be exceptions, but I can't think of any off the top of me head.
Ha - if let loose, I could have a field day with that...:eyebrows::eyebrows:Quote:
Originally Posted by Pigmy Pony
Yup, they've got no staying power whatsoever, and can't cope with the slightest inconvenience/tribulation, often because their parents spoiled them rotten as kids [always got their own way], so when introduced to the real world, rather than the cosseted fantasy one that they had previously inhabited, they simply can't handle it!:doh:Quote:
My theory: today's young folk go from having their arses wiped by their parents, to having a celebrity-budget wedding and honeymoon, then come back to discover that clothes don't wash and iron themselves, and that their new love is actually a bigger slob than they are. Then after a month of bickering about who's responsible for turning their new home into a shithole, they throw in the towel.
We had a lovely honeymoon in Austria, as ours was a winter wedding in December. Del had no idea where we were going, until the silver vintage Bentley I'd booked arrived at the hotel, to take us to the airport. When she saw that, and I told her where we were going, she was as excited as kid on Xmas eve. Magical memories.
Marco.
And I bet Del thought she'd struck gold when she discovered that her new hubby was a tabard-wearing clean freak who likes to muck in :D But you need to stop that, you're making the rest of us look bad
Indeed, when Mrs got ill I looked after her. Forsook money, brought up daughter etc. Was tough at times but can look back with pride at decent job.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
You just have to knuckle down. There is more to life than money and foreign hols
Loving that Steve, I wonder how many that actually applies to?Quote:
Originally Posted by Pigmy Pony
We got married after a quite few years of diligent saving when neither of us were earning very much. Family helped out here and there. Generally we tried to keep the cost of the wedding reasonable so that we could afford a decent honeymoon. It was 2 weeks in the Maldives which might sound extravagant but at that time the cost was no where near what it is nowadays and we could only do it because of some serious saving over a long period of time. After the Honeymoon we came home happy that we owed nothing. Everything was saved and paid for. It may not have been an extravagant wedding but everyone enjoyed it (except for the photos, I have never been to a wedding where someone hasn't complained about waiting around while the photo are being done) and the guy who run the mobile bar said it was the first wedding he had done where there wasn't a fight. We have had issues, serious issues, but we got through it and are together and happy.
The problem that I see is that many younger people are under the illusion that the quality of their married life together is defined by the grandness of their wedding, that somehow the wedding will fix the problems that exist in the relationship. The amount of very plush and expensive weddings that I have been to that have ended in divorce not very long after is just not funny anymore.
That's the thing, Paul, and a big part of the problem now: folks living way beyond their means, thinking that they're 'entitled' to stuff which they simply can't afford. Everything has to be big and flashy, so they can 'show off' - show off exactly what though, their superficiality?Quote:
Originally Posted by Primalsea
All weddings should be paid for, when they're done, and if can't do that and need to get into major debt to fund a 'fancy wedding', then either cut your coat according to your cloth, and have something simpler, or delay the wedding until you've saved up enough to pay for it!
Simples.
Marco.
A house for £130? Where is this, Legoland?Quote:
Originally Posted by mad-moon
Obviously 130k
Burnley probably. Another tenner will buy one with a hot tub in the garden, and a trampoline for the kiddiesQuote:
Originally Posted by Joe
Round here, it's more likely to be £1.3m.
Anyway, we had a cheap wedding. We have two daughters and I'm hoping they'll want the same.
Exactly 50% I'd say.Quote:
Originally Posted by Firebottle
Possibly half on average then?
no...Bristol...clever shite...Quote:
Originally Posted by Joe
My niece’s wedding, last Spring, was $14,000, they cut a lot of corners. Or so they say! It was nice, but certainly no nicer then my wedding back in 1981. I got married for $600, the wife had a beautiful white dress, we had our service in a small Baptist Church near where I live, her uncle was the preacher. I wore a rented white tux with top hat and cane, and my Mom said I looked like Alice Cooper! And i did!
My ex wife was an only child, I think that’s a lot of what goes on these days, so many single children, they never have to compromise with their siblings, strictly their parents fault for spoiling them. My daughter is an only child, but her and her husband are a model couple, making wise decisions all the way so far.
Heck it cost me more to get divorced than it did to get married! After 36 years I finally finalized it last month! But haven’t seen or spoken a word to her in 18 years. I figured she wasn’t coming back? Maybe I rushed it a bit? ;).
Russell
Yes I think you were perhaps a bit hasty - cheaper to stay married than get divorced, give it another 36 years and see how you feel ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT
We had a fairly small wedding in Ireland with just close friends and family - around 25 people and it cost us around £3k if I remember correctly (in 2001).
My dad’s wedding present to us was a big party in a hotel near us when we were back in England for a wider circle of friends and acquaintances. I reckon that cost him more than the actual wedding!
Our honeymoon was a long weekend at a posh hotel in Derbyshire because, after the cost of the wedding and the fact that we’d just bought a house, that was all we could afford. Still haven’t done our ‘proper’ honeymoon yet but are thinking that could be an occasion for our 20th wedding anniversary.
30 blissful years.... then I met the missus !
:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by tapid
A few nodding heads to that one Grant, me thinks . An old joke but still knocks it out the park in my book :)
I assume she never looks at this forum - If our other halves knew how much stick they get in these pages, we'd be in so much trouble! Ooh gotta go, she's just come into the room...Quote:
Originally Posted by tapid
My father offered me only two pieces of advice about women.
1) Marry a wealthy woman - you can always learn to love them and however it works out you've always got the money. (My mother's family were so poor they got handouts from church mice so presumably this was an insight he had only gained after it was too late).
2) All women secretly want to be Audrey Hepburn (which may be a bit out of date now and I never really figured out how that information might be useful in any case).
Speak for yourself;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Pigmy Pony
Marco,
I hope you know that even when divorced , if your ex spouse has unpaid debts then those creditors can pursue you for that debt, yep even after 18 years separated. You need to get a separate final financial legal settlement on top of the divorce to be safe from this......Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT
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There were some statements on the divorce that were saying she still may be entitled to beneficiary status unless I make a will to the contrary. So, I’ve got to make a will too I guess.Quote:
Originally Posted by Discopants
Russell
There you go, showing up the rest of us again!Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
I have a sneaking suspicion that your school teacher wife regularly checks your 'homework' when she gets in - and you have a nice shiny apple for her, you teacher's pet you :D I bet she doesn't know about you going behind that bike shelter you call a gazebo for a smoke with your mates while she's out ;)
It will work both ways won't it? In which case you should have treated yourself to those monster speakers you've been dreaming about but couldn't afford, pre divorce and buy them on finance :)Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT
Everyone should make a will, unless they live by themselves, hate all their relatives, and/or have no possessions to leave. We had ours done last time we moved house. Our solicitor did them for free because the house sale/purchase had been very complex and expensive.Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT
Yesh, I'm regularly put in detention and spanked for being naughty:eyebrows:Quote:
Originally Posted by Pigmy Pony
Oh the games you play......
Marco.
i made a will after the wife died so the kids get whatever there is.... which aint much, but the stereo and record collection will bury me and leave cash:lol:. if pushed they can use the speakers as a box:eyebrows:
Yeah well we got up to some good games last weekend, but when I came to your house and asked "Is Marco playing?" Del just said "He's having his tea", and so you missed out :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Moved the compost bin & it's contents today, f*cking hell, that was hard work.
I’ve said the same thing! They could sell off the stereo and make enough to plant me, with enough left over for a nice holiday! I hadn’t thought about being buried in a speaker cabinet! Now that’s a real good idea. Wire it to an amp in my headstone to play Time by Pink Floyd on continuous loop.Quote:
Originally Posted by struth
Russell
I’m cutting it close on all three counts! But I do have an only child, and it will be real easy to name her my only beneficiary, Real simple. On my list of things to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Joe
Russell
I'll have "Thriller" by Michael Jackson playing, and me and the rest of them will come out for a flash mob-style boogie at night :)Quote:
Originally Posted by alphaGT