and i was about to take a trip to the back door; but tripped:doh:
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and i was about to take a trip to the back door; but tripped:doh:
Seen that Debbie Mcgee on the telly going on about her funeral plan. Doesn't want the cost of it having to be paid by her relatives.
Average cost is £5.5K they say but that is going to include the people who really push the boat out. I'd guess if you don't want the band of the Grenadier Guards playing live it must be a lot less.
Truth be told I'm surprised she's ploughed through all the money Paul Daniels left her already. Must be a right little raver on the quiet.
varies of course to where you live and what you get but 3/4k usually. nearer 4 now for a standard one. if you dont want a service etc then well under 2Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
Just put them out for the dustman.
I don't get the need for a coffin when you're going to be cremated. And the prices are ridiculous for what is just a six sided wooden box that's going to be incinerated.
If they insist on one then much cheaper just to knock your own up out of wood you have lying about in the shed or garage, or finally find a use for those Audionote speakers.
this isnt the middle ages lol.. you dont just toss bodies into the fire;) undertakers and cremators dont like it.
https://youtu.be/QcbR1J_4ICg?t=3
Only because they're on an earner from it. It's a right stitch-up.
Have yourself freeze-dried like they do with dead pets, then you can be stood in the hall and used as a hat rack. At least you'll be of some use then. :)
Now now, as a good Catholic boy, you should know the value of a proper burial in a cemetery and a quality gravestone!;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
Del's mum's was made from Welsh slate, and her dad's and my mum's from marble - not cheap.. I hate cremations, as they're so impersonal and soulless!
Anyway, we've already bought our plot (a nice wee 4-berther lol, for my dad, Del and I - mum's already in)... It's now actually worth about 5 times what we paid for it (in 2010) - so a nice investment:D
My dad's funeral will be paid for by a private policy he's taken out, not that it would've been an issue anyway.
Marco [none of his relatives have ever been cremated, and none close to him ever will be].
we had one, but its full now.. 3 spaces were in it.. wife and son in same place.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Cool.. I like something you can visit and pay your respects to, put flowers in, etc, which you can't do with a bloody urn!:rolleyes: In that respect, we go to the cemetery every Sunday after church, plus clean the gravestones (often birds will have shat on them), water the flowers, etc, while we're there:)
Each to his or her own, though.
Marco.
I do similar when I visit Mum's memorial plot at St. Wynwallows, Landewednack each time I'm down to see my brother.
yeah i used to go regular but health has inhibited my regularity.. daughter goes regular tho. i get down occasionally when i can get the car right up to graveQuote:
Originally Posted by walpurgis
Thanks for being concerned about who died :rolleyes: :ner:Quote:
Originally Posted by Roy S
lol.. well i assumed it wasn't anyone close.. maybe a sadly wrong assumption. sorry about that roy.. who was it???Quote:
Originally Posted by Roy S
Lol, no you're all right, it was one of my other halves cousins who she didn't really like. We're going so she can catch up with some family who are coming across from Wales for the funeral.Quote:
Originally Posted by struth
It's okay to be cremated as a Catholic, my father was cremated. I don't know if there is a headstone or anything though. He has got a tree with a plaque on it on the golf course though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
I'd always respect someone's wishes if it were possible, but when it comes to me I don't see that it matters in the slightest. Chuck me in a ditch for the wild dogs to eat.
I have the same philosophy. Funerals are for the benefit of the living, the departed don't care. From my point of view, I couldn't care less what happens to my remains, but I'm damned if if I can see why my family should be out of pocket over it. They are aware of my thoughts.Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
Yeah, I know, and if someone had specifically stated their wishes, and they'd like to be cremated, then you should certainly respect them. However, I prefer a church ceremony followed by a cemetery burial, for reasons stated, as I feel it's a 'proper job' then, and much more personal than simply being burned into ashes, but that's simply my opinion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
I feel the same about marriages in registry offices (rather soulless and superficial), versus proper church weddings, with the whole works:)
Mind you, when it comes to funerals, burial or cremation, it makes no sense to spend pots of cash on a coffin. The cheapest one would do me fine. As a major greeny, Del wants an eco-friendly cardboard coffin, as long as it's made to look princessy, so it'd have to be pink!:D
Marco.
I agree, if you're going to do it, do it properly. My mother always says 'They're married, but it was only in a Registry Office.' It doesn't really count as far as she's concerned.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
I agree that whoever is organising your funeral shouldn't be out of pocket, which is why we'll be ensuring that our funeral is paid for, with instructions provided for those who are doing it (our much younger cousins, all sorted in our will), and if heaven forbid, they should pop off before us, then hopefully we can find someone else!:DQuote:
Originally Posted by walpurgis
Marco.
Lol - my parents were/are the same, and that also applies to funerals. In that respect, a cremation isn't considered as a 'proper job'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
However, ultimately all that matters, with both weddings and funerals, is what best suits those involved. There's NO WAY though, Del would've ever settled for getting married in a Registry Office!:eek::nono::D
Marco.
i'll help plant you mate..:D least i can do. just don't take too long:ner:Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
disagree with weddings, unless your deeply religious and like you, go to church every week. in fact i think its an insult to church to get married there and then basically not go back.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
On the hypocritical point, I fully agree. However, I'm not so judgmental as to deny any bride her special day, if a big part of what makes it special is the church service:)
Can you imagine the lists of WANTS (to fulfil her special day) I had from the princess?:lol:
Cost a bloody fortune lol, but she was worth it (just);)
Marco.
well wife had been wed before(in church) so we got a registary job, which was right outside church lol, so you got the church in pics if you wanted. not many pics of it now alas that are in good nick as they deteriorated badly.
still i have my memories of day. still got a great collection of daughters wedding tho as me and my mate did them. He took them and i did the post production.
it was more stressful than giving her away. lol
Lol - nice one, always good to have contacts! Never been to a wedding in a Registry Office. None of my family have been married in one (all churches), same with Del:)
In ours, we arrived at church (in Paisley) in a horse-drawn carriage, then we left to go to the reception (in Langbank) in a vintage Rolls Royce, at the same hotel Carol Smillie chose for her wedding reception: https://www.gleddoch.com/?utm_source...hotel-gleddoch
It was a lovely place and a fantastic day. Then I whisked her off to Austria for our honeymoon (as you know she LOVES snow), and it was a winter wedding.
Marco.
Where did you go on your honeymoon mate, or have your reception - and were you pee-ashed?:D
Marco.
Nice one Mate.
Did the Uni thing, and Graduated from that very same Church back in the day,
Was Married (Twice!) elsewhere!
Best memories from that were Mum n Dad with me, both RIP.
Look back proudly on the photos of us all together.
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Originally Posted by Marco
Lol... What church was that, mate?:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Gazjam
Marco.
Missed this:
Haha - aye, you just want the princess all to yourself, to be your private nurse!:D;)Quote:
Originally Posted by struth
Maarco.
:popcorn: :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Marco.
just had a weekend away. couldnt afford a honeymoon then. but i believe i was(sadly) pished by end of night, yes...:doh:Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
think he said it was same as yours, if i read it right..:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
The church you posted a link to.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Yes, but I didn't mention a specific church - just said it was in Paisley! That's why I'm confused:scratch:
I linked to the hotel where we had our reception, but that certainly wasn't a church:D
Some clarification needed...
Also, you haven't told me where you guys had your honeymoon or reception... I did ask, lol!;)
Marco.
Jez, lol... It wasn't a church; it was a hotel!:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
Marco.
Click on the link on the post in question: https://theartofsound.net/forum/show...77#post1288877
Does that look like a church?
Marco.
Ah lol, no worries. Yeah things were different in those days. Where did you have your reception or 'do'?:)Quote:
Originally Posted by struth
Marco.
upstairs in my local(at time)They had a function suite... had a disco and a homemade buffet at half time. went well too and was full(about 100).Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Lol - sounds mental:D
Was it like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88NNMTmEY0g
You and yer best man gie'in it yee-hah!:eyebrows:
Marco.
plenty dancing and booze.. no idea if the slosh was played tho.. i was sloshed mysel';)Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
the buffet was silly good and went in minutes even tho we did enough for twice... greedy bassas
Lol, well it was free food, innit?:doh: Hope what they filled their plates with was EATEN, not wasted. One of my pet hates are folk at buffets who pile the plates high with food (as if it was rationed or a world famine was on), then leave half of it...:rolleyes:
It happens all the time at wedding 'do's', but also at Sunday lunch buffets in pubs and hotels, especially with puddings, to the point that if I were the owner or manager I'd impose a surcharge to cover all excessive wastage, and hit the greedy bassas in their pockets!
Remember the old saying: 'You've got eyes bigger than your stomach!'? Very apt.
Marco.
I hate buffets, at least the ones you have to pay for. Same principle as the self-service checkout in the supermarket. They still charge you for the food but because having someone bring it to you eats into their profit they make you go and get it yourself
isn't the whole point of going to a hotel or restaurant that someone else does all the shit for you?
You've still got to book, drive to the restaurant, find somewhere to park and then wait for your table to be ready, and now you've got to go and get the food yourself from a selection another punter probably coughed or sneezed on already. Wonderful.
So are we agreed now it wasn't a church (in fact nothing like one) and that folks don't read posts properly?:ner::DQuote:
Originally Posted by Macca
Answers on a postcard, please.....
Or is it an unwritten rule on forums that your NEVER admit to making a mistake?:doh:
;)
Marco.
Yeah, I fully agree. Not my thing at all, and often the quality of the food is mediocre at best. I can see the attraction for families with kids (who, up to a certain age) often get to eat for free, as it's a cheap way to feed them, get a day out, and someone else does the washing up!:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Macca
But otherwise, no. Buffets are more often than not a triumph of quantity over quality. Yes it's cheap, but big deal. It can work with Chinese and Indian food, though:cool:
Marco.
i will let you know my buffet was superb and a triumph.. no one scrap avoided being eaten:ner: and free
it was a night time do of course.
we did have a meal in a highish class restaurant for close family etc after wedding too.
Lol - knowing you, I don't doubt it. But sadly that's not often the case, and simply tables full of cheap stodge!:doh:Quote:
Originally Posted by struth
Del and I met with the head chef (and also manager) of the hotel (not church, lol) where we had our reception and discussed our requirements, especially as Del was veggie.
It was a proper 3-course lunch with a bottle of wine (or other drinks) included for each table. We had about 40 for lunch (the day 'do') and around another 30 for the night one (disco, etc), where we put on a buffet - but it was a good one, lol!
Marco.
wasnt all our work. neighbours and friends made stuff too. could have charged a fair bit for it lol.. the next door neighbours chicken drumstick recipe was topsQuote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Assumed you were meaning the main one across from Paisley Uni.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marco
Often used to get folk hitched.
You DID say Church Daftee :)