It's not so much the frequency as the duration, the longer the revolting boom lasts the more likely it is to set the room off.

As the frequency of the sound being reproduced rises so the speaker becomes more directional. Most Booms that cause aggro are around 60Hz.

If you place a speaker against a wall you restrict it's radiation to 180 instead of 360 degrees and you hear more bass.

If you position a speaker away from a wall you hear not only the sound coming from the speaker but also what hits the back wall and arrives slightly later. Because it's out of phase with the forward radiation, it has a cancelling effect over a narrow band of frequencies and a peaking up an Octave above. Moving the speaker backwards and forwards enables you to tune this to taste.