Genuinely. Any advice for when your marriage goes tits up?

[kirstysdad]

After 18 yrs my wife has called time. I don't disagree with her- we've both been unhappy for too long. Kids are fine with it- I am not easy to live with nor have been the best father, so am not a victim in this. They love me, and I love them. My wife is not an ogre but neither of us are without fault.
Just want some pragmatic advice.

[struth]

Try to both keep it as friendly and equitable as possible, if possible.
Sad it's happened but maybe best long term if your both unhappy.
Living alone isn't end of the world by any means but it is different.

You both may end up liking each other more when separate

[kirstysdad]

Think you're right Grant. Been four weeks now, still living under the same roof, different rooms for a couple of years, so no drama. Thanks.

[donmarrese]

Try to both keep it as friendly and equitable as possible, if possible.
Sad it's happened but maybe best long term if your both unhappy.
Living alone isn't end of the world by any means but it is different.

You both may end up liking each other more when separate

Wise words, try minimise the use of legal eagles, or they'll eat you alive!

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[PeteT]

I can only suggest that you work things out together, starting with the things you agree most on...
...and always try and meet each other half way, except perhaps on some agreed issues that you are both willing to give way on.

I wish you both an amicable future...

Years ago an old friend of mine remarried his ex wife several years after their divorce.!
Not I suspect the most common story ending...

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[Pigmy Pony]

Agree with Grant, wise words. It's very sad, but life is too short to waste hoping things will get better. And as Don says, professional "help" best kept to a minimum. They're only in it to make money, your money.

Right now it feels like the end of the road, but really it could be the start of a new road. I wish you well, all of you.

[nonuffin]

I agree, there is no need whatsoever to get lawyers involved becuase they want you to squabble over houses, children and chattels, which of course raises the amount of money they suck out from you.

Divorce is only a matter of some form filling, a small fee and tabling any agreements you have made over chattels and kids.

[southall-1998_mk2]

I feel greatly glad to be forever single. The sheer freedom is heavenly bliss.

S.

[Alex_UK]

Well I’m currently on wife number two (no vacancy for number three just yet) and from experience, sage advice so far - try to keep everything civil, and fair, and try to stay friendly (if not friends) if you can.

Not sure about the US, but in the UK you don’t even need a lawyer to complete a divorce, but if you agree everything with each other it should just be a “rubber stamp” exercise and fees kept to a minimum.

I don’t know how old your children are, but they’re the most important ones to think about especially if they are still kids - they may say they are fine about it but I’d be paying extra attention to their feelings and reassuring them every step of the way. Luckily my divorce was before kids, so we only had the cat to worry about!

[Beobloke]

I feel greatly glad to be forever single. The sheer freedom is heavenly bliss.

S.

I feel greatly glad to have been married to a wonderful woman for 20 years.

Horses for courses…