Tell Me Something............Anything!

[Primalsea]

We got married after a quite few years of diligent saving when neither of us were earning very much. Family helped out here and there. Generally we tried to keep the cost of the wedding reasonable so that we could afford a decent honeymoon. It was 2 weeks in the Maldives which might sound extravagant but at that time the cost was no where near what it is nowadays and we could only do it because of some serious saving over a long period of time. After the Honeymoon we came home happy that we owed nothing. Everything was saved and paid for. It may not have been an extravagant wedding but everyone enjoyed it (except for the photos, I have never been to a wedding where someone hasn't complained about waiting around while the photo are being done) and the guy who run the mobile bar said it was the first wedding he had done where there wasn't a fight. We have had issues, serious issues, but we got through it and are together and happy.


The problem that I see is that many younger people are under the illusion that the quality of their married life together is defined by the grandness of their wedding, that somehow the wedding will fix the problems that exist in the relationship. The amount of very plush and expensive weddings that I have been to that have ended in divorce not very long after is just not funny anymore.

[Marco]

We got married after a quite few years of diligent saving when neither of us were earning very much. Family helped out here and there. Generally we tried to keep the cost of the wedding reasonable so that we could afford a decent honeymoon. It was 2 weeks in the Maldives which might sound extravagant but at that time the cost was no where near what it is nowadays and we could only do it because of some serious saving over a long period of time. After the Honeymoon we came home happy that we owed nothing. Everything was saved and paid for.

That's the thing, Paul, and a big part of the problem now: folks living way beyond their means, thinking that they're 'entitled' to stuff which they simply can't afford. Everything has to be big and flashy, so they can 'show off' - show off exactly what though, their superficiality?

All weddings should be paid for, when they're done, and if can't do that and need to get into major debt to fund a 'fancy wedding', then either cut your coat according to your cloth, and have something simpler, or delay the wedding until you've saved up enough to pay for it!

Simples.

Marco.

[Joe]

they've had to sell the £130.00 house they've not long signed up for....

A house for £130? Where is this, Legoland?

[struth]

Obviously 130k

[Pigmy Pony]

A house for £130? Where is this, Legoland?

Burnley probably. Another tenner will buy one with a hot tub in the garden, and a trampoline for the kiddies

[Joe]

Round here, it's more likely to be £1.3m.

Anyway, we had a cheap wedding. We have two daughters and I'm hoping they'll want the same.

[Pigmy Pony]

Loving that Steve, I wonder how many that actually applies to?

Exactly 50% I'd say.

[walpurgis]

Possibly half on average then?

[mad-moon]

A house for £130? Where is this, Legoland?

no...Bristol...clever shite...

[alphaGT]

My niece’s wedding, last Spring, was $14,000, they cut a lot of corners. Or so they say! It was nice, but certainly no nicer then my wedding back in 1981. I got married for $600, the wife had a beautiful white dress, we had our service in a small Baptist Church near where I live, her uncle was the preacher. I wore a rented white tux with top hat and cane, and my Mom said I looked like Alice Cooper! And i did!

My ex wife was an only child, I think that’s a lot of what goes on these days, so many single children, they never have to compromise with their siblings, strictly their parents fault for spoiling them. My daughter is an only child, but her and her husband are a model couple, making wise decisions all the way so far.

Heck it cost me more to get divorced than it did to get married! After 36 years I finally finalized it last month! But haven’t seen or spoken a word to her in 18 years. I figured she wasn’t coming back? Maybe I rushed it a bit? .

Russell