Martin, you can have a whole chapter on me. Basically my technique consists of telling ... what shall we say ... half truths. Q: How much did that cost? A: It cost $X (before GST and after subtracting the sale price of the item it replaced).
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Yep - deception and misinformation - good tactics ;) What about diversion strategies, anyone using those?
I suppose if you met your significant other later in life it is a different story. You are both older and more mature, things that were important in your twenties and thirties (like having a 'show home') now seem a bit petty and pointless. You are getting together with someone who already has a life and habits developed over decades and you are more accepting of that.
Some younger married couples I know don't have that at all, the women in particular have a very clear idea of exactly what they want their life to be like and are quite ruthless in pursuing it.
I met my partner later on in life, i had already been living in my home for almost 20 years!
Fortunetly' She accepted me as i am, although, i do respect that i cannot be allowed to let it take over almost every room as i did when i lived on me own!
I think at the end of the day, its about mutual respect, i have had partners in the past that would have [if i hadnt been the strong character i am] had me get rid of everything they didnt agree with, and that is why they are in the past, my Rebecca puts up with a lot, but she gets a lot of her own way in return, which for me' is what a good relationship is all about! ;) :)
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Whilst sadly that is undoubtedly true, just how *utterly selfish* is that shit?? :rolleyes:
If you're stupid enough to be such a MUG as to put up living with some vain social-climbing bint, who simply sees you as a tool for procreation and/or a meal ticket to achieve her 'perfect life'/utopian dream, then more fool you. Enjoy spending the remainder of your living days being her doormat!
Marco.
Marco don't forget that they are young and inexperienced and are 'living the dream'. Whilst a young man's dreams may not amount to much more than being able to lie in for an extra hour on weekends and go to the footy once a fortnight many of today's young ladies are, shall we say, a little more 'driven'.
Spot on, mate! The other thing is having the ability to compromise.
Mutual respect is extremely important in any relationship, but sadly that is often not the reality, and when that's the case, the relationship is quite simply doomed for failure. However, presuming that mutual respect exists, having the ability to compromise is crucial in any marriage or relationship, *if* it's going to last in the long term.
Being happily married to the same person now for 23 years, I think that I'm reasonably qualified to comment on what makes a marriage work, and I can say without question that compromise is the key!
For instance, this morning Del left the house at 9am to go and meet her friends for a 'posh breakfast' and have some girly time with them, while I was at home washing up the dishes from the night before, cleaning the house and preparing the table for lunch, whilst listening to some Jimi Hendrix. I've decanted a nice bottle of Barolo, and when she comes home, she'll cook us both a lovely lunch. I'll be washing her car later.
Last night, we enjoyed having dinner together outside in the patio, when the temperature had cooled down a bit, under candlelight until after midnight, whilst kicking back listening to some tunes on the Celestion 15XRs [which I'd set up outside and listened to during the day whilst cutting the grass], and sipping some Prosecco, watching the sun go down - it was lovely :)
Tomorrow, we'll be doing some gardening together and then at night, I'll be taking her out for a nice meal, along with my dad, who's just been away for two weeks visiting family in Scotland. That's what it's all about: working as a TEAM and introducing a bit of give and take - and in our home that applies to hi-fi considerations, as much as it does to agreeing on which colour of paint to use to decorate the lounge, or how much garlic goes into the pasta sauce!!
If you're not enjoying that type of loving and mutually respectful relationship with your partner, and are stuck in a depressing humdrum existence, kowtowing to 'she how must be obeyed', then my advice is to have a good long hard look in the mirror and do something about it, whilst you still can, as quite simply, life's too short to share it with someone who clearly cares far more about themselves than they do about you.....
Marco.
Sure, Martin, that's why it's usually best to wait until you're a bit older before getting married. Too many young people today get married way too soon, and usually because an unwanted kid is involved, although sometimes the pregnancy is planned and things can work out.
Del and I were 28 and 26 respectively when we 'tied the knot', as it were, so long past our 'daft years', and it became quite clear early on that we were made for each other, and that we were destined for along and happy life together.
Why on earth would one settle for anything less in a relationship?
Marco.
To be fair SWIMBO is very tolerant about my HIFI fetish :eyebrows:, I do have my own room which is full of my old ebay junk and DIY bodge up so she just shakes her head as she passes though :rolleyes:
I initially had my HIFI in the same room as the TV lounge with SWIMBO and 3 sons the telly won every time I wanted to listen to some music :scratch:
So I built a half house extension pretending it was all about the nice new huge kitchen for her and a new dining room :eyebrows: which quickly be came my hifi room once built :D as we already had another dining room.
Anyway when I was away working for my crust she decided my hifi room would be better as a 2nd lounge for the 3 teenage boys so they could watch what they wanted or play video games so she moved MY HIFI into the dining room in-between a table and six chairs FFS :mental:
So whilst she was visiting the mother in law and always hating this table and chairs I sawed it up into little pieces and went to IKEA an bought to nice lounge chairs for my new HIFI room :D result ! she wasn't happy and I didn't get any S*X for a full week but it was a small sacrifice and Im over it now, after a bit of counselling :rolleyes:
The floor is a bit boomy in the new room but its my man cave now and she has been TOLD NEVER EVER touch the HIFI again (er please:D)
One of the grand children pushed my soft dome tweeter in once and I was trying to get it out and resorted to sucking it out, she walked in the room just as I had my hands around the speaker and my lips around the tweeter, she said I know you love your hifi but that just going too far you'll be sticking your d*ck in the port next :lol:
Anyway happy days :)
Alan