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....You know how sometimes thing get a bit weird?
Well, in only the last week or so the following has happened....
(in no particular order)
My wife (we are separated, but still get on OK) was hospitalised with suspected Gallstones. She's now laid up and off work so our daughter has come to stay with me for the foreseeable future.
My best mate 'decided' to go and have a stroke!
My stepfather had a very serious heart attack and got put on a life support machine.
My son had his 18th birthday and finished his A-level exams. To celebrate he had some of his friends round for the evening and they were all drinking something "blue and horrible looking". Everything swiftly got out of hand (not difficult when half a dozen pissed up teenagers are involved) and in a bizarre incident involving my drunken son, the dog, and a dijeridoo... I got my nose broke. Which was nice! http://www.audiofuture.net/images/smilies/redface.png
The life support machine was switched off and my stepfather passed away.
..................... it's not been a great week! :doh:
Epiphany Acoustics
28-06-2011, 18:47
it's not been a great week! :doh:
It really hasn't.. My condolences for your loss.
Hopefully things will make a turn for the better soon :)
Reid Malenfant
28-06-2011, 18:49
Jeez Mike, yeah you have had a bit of a bad week chap :( No kidding!
Sorry to hear about just about everything going wrong :eek:
My condolences to you, sorry to hear about your stepfather...
I think that puts a lot of things into perspective :rolleyes:
Sorry for your loss Mike; that is a bad week
Rather strangely though, I'm not actually feeling that bothered.
Which is even more weird. I think? :scratch:
sometimes it can hit you when least expect other times its just life everything has it own unqiue process
No-one would want to deal with all those things in a week. My condolences, Mike.
One evening, back when I was a student, I rang my parents to catch up on the news. That same day:
My sister was hospitalised
My brother was hospitalised
My brother-in-law was hospitalised (in the same hospital as my brother, next bed in the same ward in fact)
My father crashed his car on the way to visit my sister.
It was too much news for one phone call!
Dude, that is tough. At least you are aware of the stressful events - i stick my head in the sand lol.
Jeeez. I guess with that many things at once, maybe the "not bothered" bit is just overloaded! Umm, you haven't got any firearms, have you? ;)
WOStantonCS100
28-06-2011, 19:28
...involving my drunken son, the dog, and a dijeridoo...
Geeez, man. Again, sorry to hear about your stepfather.
Maybe, wrongly so; but, I try to always find something to smile or laugh about. In which case, I can only say that given the circumstances, it's probably a good thing you got away with your nose broke than to have wound up with doctors trying to figure out a way to separate the dijeridoo from... say... your spleen! :eek:
Now, would probably also not be the best time to listen to any material by The Smiths... ;)
life is certainly strange at times and very unpredictable :scratch:
Ali Tait
28-06-2011, 21:13
At least you'll get your speakers back soon! Sorry to hear the bad news mate.
Rather strangely though, I'm not actually feeling that bothered.
Which is even more weird. I think? :scratch:
Thats called keeping your power, and not letting external circumstances rule over you. Considering the turn of events, an incredible achievement! :¬)
Thanks for the sentiments, guys, but I really am OK. Honest! :)
John (stepfather) and I weren't actually that close anyway and the OP was mostly a comment along the lines of; "it never rains, but it pours", "what the hell next?" etc.
Got a lot of work to do now by the sound of it, my sister visited the house (which was left to us by our mom when she passed away) today and said it's in a right state!
I'm worried about my mate Jim though, his left arm has been left paralysed by the stroke, and he's stuck up in Edinburgh. :(
Not good, Mikey, despite you (quite rightly) putting a positive spin on things.... I'm sorry to hear of your bad luck recently.
However, I'm a great believer that having a positive mental attitude is a great healer.
When I was diagnosed with a spinal tumour, three years ago, which would've been fatal, had it not been removed, the doctors said that after the op, there would be a 70% chance of me being paralysed from the waist down.
When I was told that, after obviously initially being rather shocked, I said to myself 'fuck it, that is NOT happening to me!', and went into the operation with the mindset that I was not going to come out of it being a cripple.
And of course, as some know, I'm a practising Catholic, and so turned to my religious beliefs and prayed to the big man upstairs, along with of course the rest of my family....
When I woke up after the operation, the first thing I tried was moving my toes, and when I could do that, the sheer relief I felt was indescribable - I doubt that winning the Lottery would even have come close!
And from then on, after much physiotherapy and pushing myself to walk again and recover fully, I now have 95% mobility. I believe that my positive mental attitude played a major role in recovering from a very serious operation. I always have been, and always will be, a 'glass half full' type of person.
It's only when I stand or kneel for long periods of time that it gives me pain, as when they removed the spinal tumour, they also had to remove some of the connecting tissue which allows the discs to flex when you move, and so my spine doesn't allow me to move freely in certain positions.
Experiences like that, of course, tend to make you examine your life and 'refocus' you mind on what *really* matters, and that there is ALWAYS someone worse off than you.......
Anyway dude, chin up, and I hope things pick up soon (especially for Jim)! :cool:
Marco.
Spectral Morn
28-06-2011, 23:08
Mike truly sorry to here all that :(
I too have literally just received a massive kick in the guts but not on the same level as yours. Shit happens and boy it is tough.
Regards Neil
Life is certanialy werid at times, :/ which makes living for now, having no regreats, and looking the the future a good thing,
A couple of years ago where i work two people i knew died on the same day, one being a good friend and the other someone i had known since i was young, came as a shock.
I can't complain, the only thing that happened directly to me was the nose, which is small potatoes. Come to think of it... it did look a bit like a potato for a day or two!
Well, that and the roof leaking!
Dominic Harper
29-06-2011, 08:38
Mike so sorry to about what has happend, I hope things pick up for you and your family.
Regards Dom
Neil McCauley
29-06-2011, 09:43
I've been affected by not only the opening post on this thread but indeed the follow-on comments. I’m reluctant to suggest that any of our situations are worse than anyone else's. Mine certainly isn't. But if I may – and this is in part inspired by Marco’s story – give a small insight into some of my own experiences.
In 2002 I was diagnosed with emphysema. Interesting inasmuch as (a) I had never smoked and (b) never worked in a smoky environment nor indeed down a mine. I was told that there was no cure and little if any viable treatment. Generally this is still the case. The doctors were kind, thoughtful and informative. In this respect I was very fortunate. As an aside it seems possible that this chronic illness (one of 3 that I have) was caused by an accident during A-Level physics where I was exposed to mercury vapor for about 90 mins.
(The characteristics of precisely how mercury vapor permeates the air in a draught-free enclosed room was not properly understood in the late 1960s. in recent times, even the breaking of a tiny thermometer mercury bulb results in immediate evacuation and a response from men is respirator suits at Harwell as was explained to me by a scientist there.)
Anyway, I found this an interesting and intriguing situation. I wasn’t in shock then, not now either and not in-between. I am indeed very fortunate. I don’t take the lack of fear for granted.
Kindly but erroneously many people opined that in the face of this (and earlier this year when confronting blood cancer) that I was very brave. Frankly this isn’t the case. I appreciate their comments, but they are incorrect.
As another member mentioned in the thread, they were 'not that bothered' – or words to that effect. Same with me. It’s not in my case self-denial nor indeed the application of an iron-will, despite having one. How I know this is beyond the scope of this thread.
From what I've read on this thread I’m reading about people here who are truly brave – unlike me. To have a fear and yet confront it is for me the acme of bravery. I feel humbled reading these posts this morning. Fortunately despite my health issues I've yet to encounter that challenge.
In conclusion then, my sincere respect and best wishes to everyone who has expressed their conditions on this thread. Howard.
And so >>>>>>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RDmXsGeiF8&feature=related
Hi Howard,
Thank you for sharing that, but I think you my be due a little more credit than you are giving yourself. Perhaps "bravery" may not be the right term, I don't know, personally I prefer the word "fortitude". That may not be correct either but my mind is currently drawing a blank!
Over the last twenty-four hours or so, I've found my self being rather a bit introspective and more than a little disturbed by my own use of the phrase "not that bothered", because I feel I should be. Perhaps events have yet to fully hit home, or have I become numbed by previous events? Again, I don't know. There was the time that Jim's wife took her own life, and not so long ago our friend 'Damage' managed to (unintentionally I hope!) kill himself. Or.... no, maybe not, this thread is already potentially heading into some sort of depression fest, so enough for now.
Life really is weird at times. I think that was the point I was originally trying to make.
Cheers....
P.S. In the light of this thread I think my current 'signature' looks more than a little bit morbid. :doh: Time for a change.
Neil McCauley
29-06-2011, 20:01
Hi Howard,
Thank you for sharing that, but I think you my be due a little more credit than you are giving yourself. Perhaps "bravery" may not be the right term, I don't know, personally I prefer the word "fortitude". That may not be correct either but my mind is currently drawing a blank!
Over the last twenty-four hours or so, I've found my self being rather a bit introspective and more than a little disturbed by my own use of the phrase "not that bothered", because I feel I should be. Perhaps events have yet to fully hit home, or have I become numbed by previous events? Again, I don't know. There was the time that Jim's wife took her own life, and not so long ago our friend 'Damage' managed to (unintentionally I hope!) kill himself. Or.... no, maybe not, this thread is already potentially heading into some sort of depression fest, so enough for now.
Life really is weird at times. I think that was the point I was originally trying to make.
Cheers....
P.S. In the light of this thread I think my current 'signature' looks more than a little bit morbid. :doh: Time for a change.
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Hello again. I’m not going to pretend in any way whatsoever that I’m a counselor ‘cos I’m not. But I am happy to listen attentively if you would like to phone me to chat about any of this. I very much doubt if I have anything concrete / practical to share but sometimes I find that knowing what one already knows – by which I mean that despite being isolated that there are others experiencing similar emotions – can be a comforting, to a degree. If you’d like this, or think you might, then please email me away from the forum and we can swop phone numbers if you wish. Sincerely, Howard.
Kindly but erroneously many people opined that in the face of this (and earlier this year when confronting blood cancer) that I was very brave. Frankly this isn’t the case. I appreciate their comments, but they are incorrect.
I found it disturbing that the depth of my feelings about my own brush with cancer came not from my own fear but from the very obvious fear of those closest to me. That was initially curious and ultimately very sobering indeed.
Neil McCauley
29-06-2011, 20:50
I found it disturbing that the depth of my feelings about my own brush with cancer came not from my own fear but from the very obvious fear of those closest to me. That was initially curious and ultimately very sobering indeed.
Yes indeed. I wasn't going to mention this first, if ever because this specific thread is so much about others rather than me that I just couldn't. However ...... your words precisely reflect my own experiences in this respect. I suspect that Marco, given his experiences and being (I guess) a far more gregarious man than me would have similar if not more extreme memories re this. And there must indeed be others on this small but warmish forum who know about what you and I are discussing here. And so, a small but sincere wave to you Martin. Howard.
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Hello again. I’m not going to pretend in any way whatsoever that I’m a counselor ‘cos I’m not. But I am happy to listen attentively if you would like to phone me to chat about any of this. I very much doubt if I have anything concrete / practical to share but sometimes I find that knowing what one already knows – by which I mean that despite being isolated that there are others experiencing similar emotions – can be a comforting, to a degree. If you’d like this, or think you might, then please email me away from the forum and we can swop phone numbers if you wish. Sincerely, Howard.
Hi Howard,
I must confess to being both intrigued and confused, in equal measures, by your offer!
I'll continue my current habit of pacing up and down the kitchen and ponder this. I think I've travelled about eight to ten miles in the last four days without leaving my home (by my reckoning, anyway)! :scratch:
At the moment I'm considering going back to Nepal and sitting on a rock to contemplate my anus for a few centuries, again. It took about a week last time.*
Cheers...
P.S. My email address is freely available around and about these parts should the need arise.
* that might look like it makes no sense whatsoever.... but trust me, meditation can do strange things!
I just had a thought!
I hope folk ain't thinking I'm going to do something stupid! :doh: :nono:
I just had a thought!
I hope folk ain't thinking I'm going to do something stupid! :doh: :nono:
No, no of course not... you didn't answer my earlier question, though! :lol:
Umm, you haven't got any firearms, have you? ;)
Reid Malenfant
30-06-2011, 19:44
Mike, while things may be a tad confusing right now i don't think many of us would be thinking that chap ;) You appear to be dealing with things in what i'd call a rational way & show no signs of utter stupidity...
I still wish you all the very best though fella, while i haven't had sh*t happen like that in such a bunch all together it doesn't mean i can't attempt to empathise..
Umm, you haven't got any firearms, have you? ;)
I'll take the fourth amendment on that one.
Reid Malenfant
30-06-2011, 19:50
I'll take the fourth amendment on that one.
:scratch: I thought it was the fifth :eyebrows:
Mike, while things may be a tad confusing right now
Well, that's just it.
NOTHING is at all confusing, I'm fully aware of whats going on. I'm just worried about why I seem to care less and less when "Shit Happens".
I'm finding that "sad". I should care more, surely?
:scratch: I thought it was the fifth :eyebrows:
Fucked if I know! :lolsign:
:scratch: I thought it was the fifth :eyebrows:
The Fourth might just apply! :eek:
"The Fourth Amendment (Amendment IV) to the United States Constitution is the part of the Bill of Rights which guards against unreasonable searches and seizures, along with requiring any warrant to be judicially sanctioned and supported by probable cause"
So Mike doesn't want to be searched...
:sofa:
;)
Reid Malenfant
30-06-2011, 20:03
Well, that's just it.
NOTHING is at all confusing, I'm fully aware of whats going on. I'm just worried about why I seem to care less and less when "Shit Happens".
I'm finding that "sad". I should care more, surely?
I'm not so sure, i kind of mentally prepared myself for my fathers death long before it actually happened :rolleyes: That may seam odd but he'd already had a few heart attacks, a minor stroke or two & a triple heart bypass. So when it did happen i think i was better able to deal with it as i'd kind of run through the scenario enough times.
Likewise with my mother, she was getting on (over 80) & started slowing down, in the end i had to do all the shopping for her.
I think i ran through the lot years ago, way before it actually happened so i was kind of numb to it. May sound a bit freaky but i have no other explaination :confused:
Oddly a film can mess me up though so i'm buggered if i know :scratch:
So Mike doesn't want to be searched...
:sofa:
;)
Correct!
Stay the hell out of my orifices! :stalks:
Likewise with my mother, she was getting on (over 80) & started slowing down, in the end i had to do all the shopping for her.
Yeah, I know what you mean.
Mine didn't quite make it that far, cancer took her at 61. I didn't have to shop for her but it did take two of us (my sister and I) to wife her arse!
Now, that might sound terrible to you lot reading this, but you'll just have to take my word that we all, mom included, somehow managed to have a laugh about it!
I also managed to see the funny side of my own cancer scare shortly afterwards.... Having some old dear rubbing jelly on your nuts and then a young nurse pressing an ultrasound scanner all over 'em was certainly 'an event'!
Shit Happens!......
Oh f***ing tremendous!
Now the ugly matter of 'The Will' is rearing it's unwelcome head!
Seriously.... I absolutely *$?#$!!& give the hell up. I'm starting to think it wasn't such a bad week after all and the human race might just well be like this all the time.
Spare me! :brickwall:
Mine didn't quite make it that far, cancer took her at 61. I didn't have to shop for her but it did take two of us (my sister and I) to wife her arse!
You used your wife to wipe your mum's arse? Now I know that you guys didn't always get on, but.............. ;)
Marco.
You used your wife to wipe your mum's arse? Now I know that you guys didn't always get on, but.............. ;)
Marco.
Hmmmmm.....
I'll let that one slide. You obviously know it was a typo, but I'll let you off. Still not all that funny though. :nono:
Apologies for any offence, dude, but you do push the boundaries yourself sometimes with humour, and so I thought you'd have seen the funny side... I wouldn't even have gone there with anyone else!!
Anyway, sorry about that :)
Marco.
Apologies for any offence, dude, but you do push the boundaries yourself sometimes with humour, and so I thought you'd have seen the funny side... I wouldn't even have gone there with anyone else!!
Anyway, sorry about that :)
Marco.
Indeed.... Like I said, I've let it slide.
barry-potter
08-07-2011, 11:59
....You know how sometimes thing get a bit weird?
Well, in only the last week or so the following has happened....
(in no particular order)
My wife (we are separated, but still get on OK) was hospitalised with suspected Gallstones. She's now laid up and off work so our daughter has come to stay with me for the foreseeable future.
My best mate 'decided' to go and have a stroke!
My stepfather had a very serious heart attack and got put on a life support machine.
My son had his 18th birthday and finished his A-level exams. To celebrate he had some of his friends round for the evening and they were all drinking something "blue and horrible looking". Everything swiftly got out of hand (not difficult when half a dozen pissed up teenagers are involved) and in a bizarre incident involving my drunken son, the dog, and a dijeridoo... I got my nose broke. Which was nice! http://www.audiofuture.net/images/smilies/redface.png
The life support machine was switched off and my stepfather passed away.
..................... it's not been a great week! :doh:
at least you got all your shit out in one go. mine has lasted all year.
early in the year my boiler went wrong and the gas fitter also decided that my gas fire was unsafe and decommissioned it. i spent ages trying to get the bastard landlord to do something about it as the problem was supposedly structural. doesn't sound much but muchos stress for me and it was only the start.
a month later some bozo drove into my car for no apparent reason and wrote it off. a week later i was made redundant. three months on, no sign of a job. mortgage/bills to pay etc. on tuesday my dad then had a heart attack. wondering what the rest of the year will bring.....
Dominic Harper
08-07-2011, 12:49
Talking of shit happening, how about this lot. Left my job that I hated to start Northwest Analogue, been an up hill struggle.
Natalie's father had a hip replacement in 2003, he contracted MRSA and as result he has now lost both his legs due to gangreene, he has had numerous counts of phemonia, various strokes, he's gone blind, he can barely speak. He exists in a room and all this for a simple hip replacement.
As a consequence of this, Natalie's mother has now developed Alzheimer's which was brough on by the shock.
Natalie has recently lost her job, this wasn't her fault but I cant go into too much detail. Prior to loosing her job she was told she couldn't have children and has suffered a number of miscarriages. But she still manages to carry on. Natalie has fractured her spine and damaged her discs, but she can walk.
Natalie asked me to put this because of her father, and she wants people to know that although things do happen, things always get better and you should keep your head up and stay positive.
Puts my bad run of luck with domestic appliances and plumbing into perspective. :(
I think these recent posts have put everything into perspective! And there I was grumbling about having to pay £1,500 for root canal surgery.
.... and shit continues to keep happening.
I've just returned from the hospital where my youngest sister, Julie, was taken following a serious road accident.
Sadly, she didn't make it and passed away at 22:30 when the machines were no longer able to sustain her life.
I'm utterly unable to express my feelings over this with any sort of meaning. Nor am I able to explain to myself why I'm hanging around an audio forum at a time like this.
It's been a terrible day.
The Grand Wazoo
30-01-2012, 01:12
Mike, I'm so sorry to hear this, mate. I'm sure we'll all be thinking of you & yours in the days to come.
Stratmangler
30-01-2012, 01:17
Jeez Mike.....
I'm really sorry to hear of your sister's passing.
My thoughts are with you all - it must be a tough time.
Really sorry to hear that.
So sorry man - really don't know what to say.
Bless you mike, my deepest sympathies to you and your family. forever an angel
Mike, that's the most appalling news. My very deepest condolences. Wherever you get comfort from, mate - we're here if you need us :(
Canetoad
30-01-2012, 07:57
That's terrible news Mike! My condolences as well.
Ali Tait
30-01-2012, 09:29
My deepest condolences Mike, so sorry to hear this. I know what it is to lose a sibling. You know where I am if you need anything or need to chat.
Oh Mike, I am so sorry to hear this - it'll not mean much at this time but my thoughts are with you, as are those of lots of your other friends on here. Take care of yourself at this difficult time and, like the others, you know where I am if you need a shoulder to lean on at any time.
As for why you hang around on a forum at such a time, at such a time you need the support of friends around you and that's what you've got, in bucketfuls. on AOS. While ever it helps, hang around as much as you want, we're all 'here' for you.
Dave.
Terrible news Mike - not much I can add to the above except a +1. :(
StanleyB
30-01-2012, 11:22
Terribly sorry to learn about your sister Mike :(.
Border Riever
30-01-2012, 11:35
Deepest Condolences to yourself and your Family.
Haselsh1
30-01-2012, 12:27
There had better be an afterlife because I've just about had enough of this shit that purports to be 'life' and therefore entertaining. At some point, something has to go 'our' way surely ???
Haselsh1
30-01-2012, 12:32
I sympathise dreadfully with anyone who loses someone so close. During the year 1984 I lost eight friends to motorcycle accidents. In 1987 I lost my Dad and my hero and in 1991 I lost my Mom. All that's left for me now are two sisters, my partner Janet and her daughter Kathryn. I know it is inevitable but it is still a huge pile of crap all the same. Kathryn suffers with Cystic Fibrosis. I don't know how long she has.
They call this 'life'
That's just the most terrible news, Mikey :(
My heart goes out to you and all your family at this time. Please offer them our condolences on behalf of AoS.
You'll find your own way of coping with grief, and although it may seem daft, I can understand why sharing your thoughts and feelings here, amongst friends, helps.
Look after yourself, mate, and take care.
Marco.
Hi,
Thanks for the sympathies everyone, but please, rather than direct your kind thoughts toward me, spend a moment sending to my baby sister, Joolz. She only graduated from university last summer, and was a mere five years older than my own son.
Anyway, in the very unlikely event that any local(ish) members might have been in the area, there is appeal for witnesses: http://www.northyorkshire.police.uk/index.aspx?articleid=8124
Thanks...
Hi,
Thanks for the sympathies everyone, but please, rather than direct your kind thoughts toward me, spend a moment sending to my baby sister, Joolz. She only graduated from university last summer, and was a mere five years older than my own son.
Anyway, in the very unlikely event that any local(ish) members might have been in the area, there is appeal for witnesses: http://www.northyorkshire.police.uk/index.aspx?articleid=8124
Thanks...
And the fact that it appears it may have been caused by idiocy behind the wheel, and therefore avoidable, must make it so much harder to bear. My thoughts are with you Mike.
Haselsh1
30-01-2012, 15:21
Hi,
Thanks for the sympathies everyone, but please, rather than direct your kind thoughts toward me, spend a moment sending to my baby sister, Joolz. She only graduated from university last summer, and was a mere five years older than my own son.
Anyway, in the very unlikely event that any local(ish) members might have been in the area, there is appeal for witnesses: http://www.northyorkshire.police.uk/index.aspx?articleid=8124
Thanks...
Oh Good grief... I live in Pickering. This is big news over here.
jandl100
08-02-2012, 09:53
Just seen this.
I am so very sorry to hear this, Mike.
I must confess I am all choked up with tears in my eyes.
Very, very sad. What a waste of a life - you and your family have my sincerest condolences.
Spectral Morn
08-02-2012, 11:07
I feel trully terrible having only seen this now :doh::( I don't know how I missed this.
What can any of us say, life is fleeting embrace it, enjoy it best way you can, never let the sun go down on an argument, tell those you love that you love them and hold to the precious memories when a loved one is not here any more.
I like Shaun increasingly (seemingly) question the crazy terrible, randum stuff that happens in life. A guy I work with sometimes, lost a relation just before Christmas . She went for a walk taking her dog with her and two young ass holes having a car race killed her, as one lost it and mounted the pavement. Both arrested but why? is the real question, but sadly there are no answers forthcoming.
Mike there is nothing I can say to make this better for you, all I can say is I feel terribly upset about this and missing this post of yours and I hope in time, somehow you can find away to live again, though right now things must seem very dark, you will eventually see sunlight again and remember the good things and smile and laugh about them.
Neil :(
Been away from the Forum for the early part of the new year and am in the process of catching up with the posts.
I have just read of your terrible and shocking news Mike, and can't really say anything that has not already been said. It might be a bit of a cliché but at time like these support from friends and family are a real help and source of comfort. Indeed my thoughts are with your sister.
As both Shaun and Neil have pondered, there really is no fairness in life. I don't believe in predestination, we're not dealt a 'hand' in life - it is all entirely random and not of our own making. Not a comforting idea; I don't believe there is any purpose or reason why were are here at all.
I don't believe in an afterlife, though many take comfort in the idea. I believe we pass this way just the once and that is all there is. And the only way to deal with the 'shit' that is life, is to do the best you can to deal with your fellow man and just get on with it.
Regarding recovery from potentially fatal illnesses, I do believe that a positive attitude can help: I haven't had any direct personal experience, but have seen it in friends and acquaintances. Some of the posts to this thread have given me much to think about.
Regards
dave2010
12-02-2012, 17:46
Oh f***ing tremendous!
Now the ugly matter of 'The Will' is rearing it's unwelcome head!
Seriously.... I absolutely *$?#$!!& give the hell up. I'm starting to think it wasn't such a bad week after all and the human race might just well be like this all the time.
Spare me! :brickwall:Hi Mike. You're right - you've had a lot to deal with in a short time. I and others in my family have had problems, but they've been spread out over at least a decade, so you getting all that in one week is pretty bad. Best wishes anyway, and keep going.
Just hope the Will goes OK. I think it does for a lot of people, but sometimes it goes badly wrong - which has happened to me. [It's not the money, but the way it's been sorted/not sorted which is the killer.] If there are others involved, make sure you trust them, and get what you can/want out of it. There's no need to fall out over it, but solicitors and legal people are sometimes useless (refrains from putting asterisks before that adjective ...) so don't expect them to be helpful. Actually the solicitor who dealt with my father-in-law's stuff was very good, very helpful - but he had planned it in advance. Some others are totally rubbish, and if other people involved play you up there can be a lot of pain.
It's surprising how you can find out who you can trust, or not, when things like this crop up. You may find that others behave in ways which you really don't expect.
Good luck with it all, anyway. If you are the executor it'll give you something to take your mind off the other things.
dave2010
12-02-2012, 17:53
Mike
I'm really sorry. I just read your msg 48 after posting my previous msg. That's truly terrible.
There's not much I can do or say. I can't believe what a horrible time you are having. I join the others on this board who have expressed their sympathies.
Makes other things seem trivial.
Julie's funeral was held today in Doncaster. So many people, so many tears, so much love, so very moving. Heartbreaking. Even the vicar cracked up at one point.
I realise that none of you even knew her, but here she is:
Julie and her fiancée, Paul. They met at school and had been together for over eight years, they had plans.
http://img585.imageshack.us/img585/5298/juliepaul.jpg
Here with mum and dad. Barbara (on the left) is actually my step mum, but I've never, ever thought of Joolz as my 'half' sister. It didn't occur to me.
http://img835.imageshack.us/img835/1587/juliedadbarbra1.jpg
The pictures were taken at her graduation... only a degree in forensic science no less!
Kudakutemo
kudakutemo
ari mizu-no tsuki
Though it be be broken -
broken again - still it's there:
the moon on the water.
- Choshu.
And with that, I bid you all a fond farewell. Not goodbye (probably), but I have some important things I need to do with my life that don't involve HiFi forums. I have come to realise that for far too many years I have not devoted enough time to the family members who do not live close by, and I need to do something about that.
Don't make the same mistake I made. Don't wait for a tragedy to be reunited with family you haven't seen for too long. Care for your loved ones...
Take care!
Tragic, Mike, and I can understand where you're coming from. As Dave Allen used to say "Goodnight, thank you, and may your God go with you."
Mike,
So very sad to learn of your change of direction and priorities in life but I fully understand and support you - all the very best for the future. It would be nice to see you back some time but only when you're really ready.
You know where we are if ever you need us.
Many many thanks for all your help in the past and take care.
Best wishes :) ,
Dave.
Email still works though...
Dominic Harper
16-02-2012, 22:49
Hi Mike, well I'm sure Dom and I will happily email you. I know what you mean about priorities. When you loose someone close you tend to change your whole outlook on life. Most of the time it is for the better. You will have to do what is best for you right now, and if in the future you change your mind and decide you want to continue with you whole hifi passion, then I'm sure everyone here will be more than happy to hear from you.
My sincere condolences to you and your family, and I hope you all ghet through this as best as you can.
Natalie;)
You take care of yourself and your family, Mike.
Covenant
19-02-2012, 14:30
Best wishes Mike, you are right family is the most important thing. I really hope things pick up for you.
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