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  1. #41
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    Hi
    I'm also from Sussex between polegate and alfriston but happily married with Grown up kids, would be interested in meeting sometime
    Regards Phil
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  2. #42
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pharos View Post
    I also am a loner, and have never been married or had children
    Me too.
    Came close a few times and have had long relationships but the only time I lived with women, both ended inside six months.
    I get fed up with people (okay, women) saying I have commitment issues : I don't. I just don't want to compromise 80/20.
    50/50 is fine, even 60/40 but not to the point where I'm not happy/henpecked/wearing matching anoraks.
    I know two couples who decided not to have kids for various reasons and I think we're all finally getting to the age where people stop asking us about it .. but we will always be considered weirdos.


    Quote Originally Posted by Pharos View Post
    ... and cannot help but wonder if this defines me as inadequate in some way, and that the Hi-Fi is a sublimation/displacement of more normal life desires
    Definitely not inadequate.
    I think it makes you more interesting, personally.
    Why settle for something that doesn't make you truly happy ?
    We could all get married for the sake of it, have kids for the sake of the crap marriage and grow old and bitter with someone else, but that's the easy, socially acceptable way. It's much more important to be true to yourself.
    Most of your mates are probably envious, right ?
    There's a reason why so many men go fishing whenever they get the chance, and it's not because of the sport ..

    As for the sublimation thing, I don't think so : men like to have collections or hobbies or a project they can devote time and effort to. Like fishing, cars, photography, art, sport .. whatever .. we need that "out" I think, as animals.
    I have a record collection and hifi, a big Subbuteo collection - and still play - and I go to the cinema every week (on my own, btw).
    No shame in any of that and it's not because I don't have kids ..
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    weirdo!
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    Quote Originally Posted by rigger67 View Post
    Me too.
    Came close a few times and have had long relationships but the only time I lived with women, both ended inside six months.
    I get fed up with people (okay, women) saying I have commitment issues : I don't. I just don't want to compromise 80/20.
    50/50 is fine, even 60/40 but not to the point where I'm not happy/henpecked/wearing matching anoraks.
    I know two couples who decided not to have kids for various reasons and I think we're all finally getting to the age where people stop asking us about it .. but we will always be considered weirdos.




    Definitely not inadequate.
    I think it makes you more interesting, personally.
    Why settle for something that doesn't make you truly happy ?
    We could all get married for the sake of it, have kids for the sake of the crap marriage and grow old and bitter with someone else, but that's the easy, socially acceptable way. It's much more important to be true to yourself.
    Most of your mates are probably envious, right ?
    There's a reason why so many men go fishing whenever they get the chance, and it's not because of the sport ..

    As for the sublimation thing, I don't think so : men like to have collections or hobbies or a project they can devote time and effort to. Like fishing, cars, photography, art, sport .. whatever .. we need that "out" I think, as animals.
    I have a record collection and hifi, a big Subbuteo collection - and still play - and I go to the cinema every week (on my own, btw).
    No shame in any of that and it's not because I don't have kids ..
    You probably couldnt afford them all if you had kids or have time to enjoy them. . Kids do cost in every conceivable currency.
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  5. #45
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    Both good points, well made
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    ha ha,im in the same boat mate ,like you im happy with just me...oh and the dog
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  7. #47
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    Rigger67, your post 42 does offer some comfort, but also opens up many other questions for me.

    I agree that kids cost a hell of a lot in time money and effort if done properly, and my integrity would ensure I did my best, having had rather selfish and abusive parents.

    But can't a marriage be such that it is not only 50:50, both keeping their identities, and enriching each others lives with new experiences via the other's interests?

    If I ventured into it I would have to think about the improved genetic recombination of any children as a major factor, and I would want a wife to be unorthodox by dismissing conventional roles in favour of a real commitment to sharing in every way.

    Marriage surely does not have to be a substitute for living, an implanted imposition into enjoyment of life. A partner should enhance life quality. However on the basis of mails I am currently receiving, it seems that many women want a ready made care home with steward provided, into which they just give birth repeatedly. This they call love and commitment.

    One of the few statements with which I agree from Ashley James of the HDD site, is that he asserted that it was very natural for a man to develop things, working at them with his hands. This dos not only mean fixing the house systems to me, but may seem that way to many women.

    My experience is that my interests in; motorcycling, Hi-Fi, bodybuilding, cycling, and musical instrument playing, are seen as a competitive threat to them having my attention and time.

    I love women, but I feel tyrannised enough by the cat.

  8. #48
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    Quote Originally Posted by rigger67 View Post
    I get fed up with people (okay, women) saying I have commitment issues : I don't. I just don't want to compromise 80/20.
    50/50 is fine, even 60/40 but not to the point where I'm not happy/henpecked/wearing matching anoraks.
    I know two couples who decided not to have kids for various reasons and I think we're all finally getting to the age where people stop asking us about it .. but we will always be considered weirdos.
    Isn't it bizarre how someone who hasn't conformed with society's 'accepted norm' is thus labelled as a "weirdo"? For me, that says more about them than it does about us (as I also don't have any children, but am very happily married).

    I've never been able to fathom why for so many, the feeling towards others who've successfully built their lives differently from you, is often one of resentment?

    Perhaps it's because as we're not tided down with looking after kids, we've not only got more disposable income, enabling us to enjoy ourselves more, but also the time in which to do it?

    I've got nothing against having children [we would've too, had things worked out differently, as we both like kids], but I certainly don't feel a 'failure' for it, or 'unfulfilled' in some way as a human being, simply because I've' failed to procreate', or worse as some bizarrely often brand you as, 'selfish'. What's that all about?

    I've just never bought the notion that in order to be a 'success' in life, one needs to have 2.4 children and a semi-detached in Surbiton.... Or have 'her indoors' popping them out like ping-pong balls, as the more kids you have, the more 'fulfilled' or special you feel. Bollocks to that!

    As for commitment, I'm with you 100%. For me, it's either 50-50 or nothing! Why on earth, without very good reason, should either partner in a relationship have more overall say than the other? All this 'she's the boss' bollocks, which in my experience is largely a British thing, boils my piss like you wouldn't believe...

    The hen-pecked husbands of Britain really do need to get a grip and 'grow a pair'!

    There's a reason why so many men go fishing whenever they get the chance, and it's not because of the sport ..
    That's an interesting one, which don't get me wrong I get works for some, but which doesn't apply in my circumstances. I've been married to my wife now for over 25 years, and we still enjoy each other's company, and consequently do things together [she even comes to hi-fi shows with me ], and miss each other even if we're apart for a day!

    Therefore, I've never 'bought into' the notion of going fishing, or to the pub or whatever, to 'get away from the wife'. For me, it's precisely the opposite, as apart from partners we're also the best of friends, have lots in common and thus enjoying sharing things together.

    Don't get me wrong, she still has her mates, and I have mine, and we enjoy our respective bloke or girly time, but nothing beats us being together, doing the things we both enjoy - and for me if you don't have that type of close relationship with your wife or husband, then you don't really have a marriage.

    It's simply an 'agreement of mutual convenience', often brought about by the arrival of an unplanned pregnancy, which in some ways takes us back to where we were before...

    No, mate, enjoy your freedom. My advice is to fill your life with as many pleasures as possible, and have a ball while you can!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pharos View Post
    ...it seems that many women want a ready made care home with steward provided, into which they just give birth repeatedly. This they call love and commitment.
    Hahaha... That's brilliant, and oh *so* true!

    Never marry someone who sees you simply as a glorified sperm bank, and who seeks to fulfil her ambitions at YOUR financial expense, and in the process, advance her social status, because if so, for the rest of your life, you can safely stamp the words 'door mat' on your forehead!

    Apparently, some men also like being 'mothered' [seeking a replacement mother figure, in the shape of a wife], which is probably one of the reasons why the 'she's the boss' thing exists so prominently: some men actually *want* it that way....

    You can usually spot this rather comical phenomenon when 'she' buys all your clothes and underwear, and gives you 'pocket money' to spend, from your OWN wages...!

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    No kids means no one to look after you in your dotage they say... maybe it really means no one to bung you in a home when you become a trial
    Regards,
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    “You see these dictators on their pedestals, surrounded by the bayonets of their soldiers and the truncheons of their police ... yet in their hearts there is unspoken fear. They are afraid of words and thoughts: words spoken abroad, thoughts stirring at home -- all the more powerful because forbidden -- terrify them. A little mouse of thought appears in the room, and even the mightiest potentates are thrown into panic.”

    "You don't have free will. You have the appearance of free will.”

    “There's a war out there, old friend. A world war. And it's not about who's got the most bullets. It's about who controls the information. What we see and hear, how we work, what we think... it's all about the information!”


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