I agree entirely Marco, we need to respect how the target perceives the ridicule, they may be searing in self doubt about their value and this may not be noticed, or even worse played upon.
It is reassuring though, my having been regarded as rather odd by many social groups, to see what their adhesion to orthodoxy has produced for them in their lives; they often pay a price for conformity.
I watched a film on Janis Joplin last night, she was ridiculed by her peers and full of self doubt, and I guess torturing herself quite a lot.