Pet Forum Bug-Bears

[Marco]

My biggest bugbear?

Folks who join forums without first reading the rules/ethos of the site, and the general 'tone' of the place, to see if *they* will fit in ok, and then moan afterwards when they don't like the way things are, or discover that the established mindset conflicts with their deeply-ingrained 'belief system'!

There seems to be a gross miscomprehension that it's up to the forum concerned to 'accommodate' them (and their, to put it politely, 'challenging personality quirks'), when the very opposite applies.

It's up to YOU to fit in with whatever forum you join, respect the way things are and get on amicably with those in charge, not IT/THEM to fit in with you!

Marco.

[Bigman80]

As a newish member myself, I do on occasion welcome new people, but not too frequently as I don't want to be seen as trying in ingratiate myself into the community.

I have found this forum to fairly friendly in line with many forums,
there is always a clique or nucleus of members that post and comment amongst themselves, and to a degree after a welcome new members are left on the sidelines, with limited response to posts.

I also accept that many members have a different outlook on what constitutes to be good manners, but we all come from different backgrounds so, I guess, it's to be expected.

Not unique to this forum I may add, whether sound (music) based or any other.

Gary

That's a shame Gary, I was new about two years ago and just got stuck in giving out bad info and awful advice 😂

I think it's easy to be intimated by the vast and mainly superior knowledge on here.

I try and welcome new members too.

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[struth]

Guess you will always have friends speak among each other. Its normal, even in conversations and parties. We try to keep everyone in the loop but it doesnt alway work i will admit

[Bigman80]

Relationships form everywhere. No-one is deliberately isolated which is good.

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[Marco]

Relationships form everywhere.

Are you referring to 'love interests'? If so, I believe Grant and Bev would make a nice couple!

Marco.

[Stryder5]

Are you referring to 'love interests'? If so, I believe Grant and Bev would make a nice couple!

Marco.

Perhaps Oliver and Alan........sooo sorry

[struth]

Are you referring to 'love interests'? If so, I believe Grant and Bev would make a nice couple!

Marco.

A couple of what though?

[walpurgis]

You tend to get back what you put in, so to speak, in my opinion. The greater a member's input and involvement, the more interaction they will achieve with others. There's no trait of ignoring of people, it's just that some have topics and views more in common with each other.

[jandl100]

Bug-bear ....

Reviews or comments about kit that say something along the lines of "reveals all the detail in the music".
Rubbish - there's always more information to extract from recordings!

Just say that it's more than you've heard before.

[Marco]

Another bugbear of mine, along similar lines to the last one, is folks who join forums with the selfish intention of simply getting out if it what *they* want, and giving nothing back in return but aggro, usually when they don't get their own way, or aren't allowed to behave how they think they're 'entitled' to behave!

Or those who blatantly disregard a forum's rules/ethos, and see registering as an opportunity to vent or rant about 'life's injustices', or target specific individuals whom they dislike, 'poking' them to see how they'll react, all in the name of some sad form of 'entertainment' - and rather hilariously, moan when they end up being banned for it, then afterwards proceed to blame everyone else but themselves for why that happened!

Another amusing (and ironic) thing is how some self-confessed argumentative and egotistical people [hello DQ], who always want to be right, when they encounter someone else who shares similar traits, and ultimately fall out with them, it's always the other person's argumentative personality and huge ego that's the problem, not theirs!!

So instead of seeing the fallout as resulting simply from a gross personality clash, in the way of the classic 'irresistible force meets an immovable object', the blame is always placed on those they were arguing with, or the mods or owner of the forum, who when eventually sick and tired of having to deal with a selfish tit, hell-bent on causing as much annoyance as possible, and showing no concern whatsoever for others, gives them the (well-deserved) boot!

Honestly, sometimes you just can't make it up or comprehend how blinkered some folk are, seemingly possessing an acute inability to look beyond the environs of their insular little bubbles

Marco.