Yup, same here, mate. However, we do own
exceptional examples of valve amps, designed by folk who *really* know what they're doing and how to get the absolute most from said topology!
What you're describing is, IMO, also to do with why folk often claim that 'valve watts' are seemingly more 'powerful' than SS watts, which is often why a well-designed, low-powered valve amp can sound subjectively bigger and 'gutsier' than a (significantly) more powerful, in terms of watts, SS amp.
For me, there's definitely something in that [no proper idea why, though] as I've heard the effect MANY times. Certainly, the Copper amp goes subjectively just as loud (whilst staying in control of the music), as did my old 200W ECS monoblocks - and I'm sure your 8W SET amp does the same in comparison with, say, any 30W SS amp you've heard.
I think Anthony had a theory about it, along the lines of valves being high-current devices, so the power is 'always there' and available instantaneously, whereas SS amps have to 'search' for it, or something like that... Perhaps he will elucidate?
Marco.