The decline of good manners

[Cotlake]

Greg: If you knew half the ding Dongs me & Marco have had you'd cringe, but i don't see marco binding on about it! At the end of the day greg you stuck your hooter in on a tiff that had absolutly nothing to do with you..The term stuck up his arse' was clearly due to the fact you broke a responce down into so many quote in favour of chris, i found it strange.

Greg: You need to keep you nose out of buisness that doesnt concern you, you'll never get an appology from me.

Andre, you need a reality check. Please do not accuse me of sticking my nose into business which is not mine when you choose to share your business publically on a forum where all members have a right to express their opinions. If you didn't want a public response you should have dealt by PM or email. I struggle to comprehend your naivety on this.

Regarding the 'break down' of your message into quotes, recognise it was a response to what you had said. Absolutely nothing to do with Chris.

Please note, I have never and will never expect an apology from you. In anycase, all the indications are that you don't possess that kind of reasonable decorum.

Regards,

Greg

[Rare Bird]

Greg at the end of the day what it is with you is it '' i've had my knuckles wraped so every one else has to ''..Grow up for god sake man..Babies carry of like this.

Unawares to you myself & Chris are perfectly fine now, so stick a cork in it please.

I think the best thing to do here is lock this topic or would that be trying to tell mods how to run the place!

[Cotlake]

Firstly that is not what I said.

Secondly it is bad manners to mention any element of a private PM in the open with out permission...something I did not give. One would normally expect a PM to be responded to via another PM ....finally back to the topic of the thread...the decline of good manners,


Regards D S D L

Hi Neil,

Get real and understand what I have said. My text never included anything you had written in your PM to me. I didn't quote anything, so your 'not what I said' statement is nonsence. I've simply expressed my opinion on the state of AoS moderation, and what you have said in a PM has contibuted to that. Nothing in my latest post included anything specifically referenced to what you have written to me. There are no bad manners here and absolutely no breaches of PM confidenciality.

In consequence of all this stuff, I seriously wonder about your competance to be a moderator. What do you think?

[Marco]

Hi Greg,

Trust me, I do realise that you're trying to be helpful. I agree with some of the points you've raised, which have been noted

As said, I got challenged by Steve because he took my questioning of another members 'ears' as offensive yet Andre can post that I am up Chris' bum which brought no moderator challenge. Where is the consistancy there?

I was away when the above remark was made, so had no part in any moderating decisions that did or didn't take place. We're all human though and make mistakes - hopefully we will learn from any that were made.

As for all mods and admin singing from the same hymn sheet, as it were, we generally do, but that's much easier done when there is a strict AUP to follow than when there is a more 'organic', less rigid, procedure in place such as our ethos.

We believe that an ethos policy suits the dynamic of AoS much more than a rigid set of rules, as outlined in an AUP. This means that we rely on the individual assessment of the particular moderator or member of admin who's dealing with a given situation to be accurate and ensure the best outcome. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, as there's always a margin for error. I'm afraid that's the nature of the beast.

It's the compromise we choose to facilitate what we feel is the best way of ensuring the smooth running of the forum. However nothing is perfect and we will learn from this experience and use it to our advantage in future.

I am now locking the thread, as it's run its course, and to prevent any further circular debate. Thanks to all who contributed - rest assured that all points raised have duly been noted

Marco.