WAF Factor (again)

[Mike]

'Course not, but that goes for a lot of stuff being discussed on fora, innit?

Truth is, if you don't get along with the missus in what concerns hi-fi, a bit of banter on a forum won't solve the problem, but having a moan sometimes makes people feel better, nothing wrong with that, is it?

Far as I'm concerned, if I don't get silly with things (which I don't, mainly because I like to think of myself as a considerate person so I don't take into account my wishes only) there's absolutely no problem. She doesn't want to know what I'm spending on hi-fi, which suits me just fine, but then again I'm not leaving the bills unpaid to get myself the latest cryo mains plug.

It's all about balance, methinks. But you can't have balance if you're not prepared to think about the person next to you. You can't destroy the look of the living room with some fugly equipment (and I have seen some pig ugly stuff out there) just because there's some elusive degree of improvement to your audition and not care about anything else than your satisfaction with that extra increment of joy it brings you.

As has been said, there are solutions. There's so much good stuff out there you don't absolutely have to pick the shittiest looking of them all just to show who's wearing the trousers, I don't think. Now, if your other half turns her nose up at the simple mention of any thing hi-fi, that's different, but if you only discovered that now, then you've got a potentially bigger problem on your hands than just the home improvement and design...

Nice post, Eddie. I agree fully!

It's just that the thread title contains the word "again"... we've done this to death already!

This thread seem to be designed to do nothing other than 'stir it' if you see what I mean?

[SteveW]

Look ...OK my wife may wear the trousers in our house...but I fookin iron them.

[Mike]

Look ...OK my wife may wear the trousers in our house...but I fookin iron them.

[Alex_UK]

My wife would let me have pretty much whatever I wanted in the living room, but, at the end of the day, no-compromise hi-fi is a secondary consideration to real-life - I'm lucky enough that I could turn a spare room into a listening room - but would I want to spend hours away from my wife & daughter? Absolutely not! (Maybe in another couple of years I'll need a man-cave!)

[Marco]

Haha, Steve, nice one!

Dave,

We, or at least I, are not discoursing about guys moaning about what their wives will or will not let them have, although I have no recollection on this forum of any members posting in this manner. We are discoursing about partnership compromise on aspects of hi-fi kit placement in a living room - the two subjects are poles apart - get back on topic.

The two are intrinsically related, old chap, hence why I brought it up. The subject is 'WAF' (Wife Acceptability Factor) and the undisputable fact is that some guys moan about what their wives will accept (or not) with regards to hi-fi!

With regards to hitting a raw nerve, a bit of self inspection might be in order - "Methinks he doth protest too much" springs immediately to mind.

Not at all – I am very content with my married relationship, thanks. The reason I’m participating in this discussion is to try and coax those out of the woodwork whose married relationships resemble what I’ve described, with regards to housing the hi-fi system, and to ask them why they put up with it... What perplexes me most is the apparently accepted notion (by some) that the woman should have sole say (or more say) as to what is put in the living room of the jointly-owned marital home

To that I say bullshit!

Marco.

P.S If you want an unbiased opinion of what my wife is like (regarding the hi-fi situation) ask Steve Toy or the other people on this forum who've met her. Incidentally, she's been reading every word of this as I've been typing it - I kid you not!

[Alexxus]

It's just that the thread title contains the word "again"... we've done this to death already!

This thread seem to be designed to do nothing other than 'stir it' if you see what I mean?

Yeah, but I didn't see the other ones. Oh wait, this could be a trap for non-suspecting gullible citizen such as myself. Oh, my God, what did I let myself into

Look ...OK my wife may wear the trousers in our house...but I fookin iron them.

Good one, Steve, nearly fell off my chair

[Marco]

Hi Alex,

I'm lucky enough that I could turn a spare room into a listening room - but would I want to spend hours away from my wife & daughter? Absolutely not!

I completely agree - it would be weird and unnatural to do so.

I also have a dedicated music room, *but* quite often my wife joins me and we both listen to music together whilst enjoying a nice bottle of wine or three

No way do I lock myself away in a darkened room like some sort of recluse!

Besides, I have my little 'pets' to attend to in there behind my 'secret door', haha. Daddy's coming my lovelies.......

Marco.

[Alex_UK]

I have my little 'pets' to attend to in there behind my 'secret door', haha. Daddy's coming my lovelies.......

be afraid, be very afraid!

[Jonboy]

Perhaps some or all of us are guilty of our little secrets in the telling the wife that it only cost £300 instead of the real price of £500 and what a bargain it was at that price, honesty prevails in the end as the words SEX BAN come to the fore when you get found out , i now always try to involve my wife and even my daughters in the pursuit of HiFi nervana as you all know the female of the species always has the better and more disserning ear for sound quility, fact i'm afraid
This thread could go on forever about the virtues and dissavantages of having a spouse, WAF is here to stay so we must deal with it as we can

I to have the wife looking over my shoulder as i write this Ah it's so sweet.

Marco i think we were seperated at birth as it seems we share to much in common and i lived in Wales for a while

If this dosn't make sense the red wine is taking over

I wish i was good at English as others hers seem to be very articulate

[Joe]

I think it's children (or lack of same) that make the difference, both in terms of how much spare cash there is and how much room there is, rather than bossy wives. The only person i know of with speakers built in the ceiling is Marco!