Did Rega tighten the Apheta up this much, or did the dealer fit and then remove the cartridge? Should have bought it with Apheta cartridge - sounds amazing as long as the MC phono stage can take it without the treble taking off.
Seriously though, I'd give a call to Rega (their distributor) and arrange to send the pic for their comments. I know it's up to the dealer, but Rega may take pity on you.
The coating on the pipe is indeed quite heavy and I should warn that if the third hole is used with Rega cartridges, it will leave a mark after. Actually, the Exact cartridge seems to have taken on a whole new lease of life with this latest generation of decks, the existing fine mid and treble being tempered with a far clearer bass than I remember of old..
Good luck.....
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